Sometimes you just have to say “No.”
Whatever language you speak “No” is probably the single most powerful word you can use. It will conjure up all sorts of emotions both positive and negative such as anger, sadness, fear, resentment, disappointment, anxiety, and much, much more.
No one likes to be told “no”. Conversely, for a lot of people, saying “no” is difficult to do.
So why are we afraid of this two-letter word? Maybe you don’t want to hurt the other person’s feelings? Is it because you want to be liked? Maybe, and this is the most common reason, you don’t want to be seen as selfish, negative and uncooperative. Or is it because you think it’s important for your career or the relationship with your partner not to say “No.”
It is often considered to be one of the major causes of stress at work, at home, and in a social environment, to say “yes” when every emotional fibre screams at you to say “No”.
It may result in you committing to an increased workload when you are already maxed out, or agreeing to something you find morally or ethically wrong, concerns about, compromising your principles and values, and so many more possible outcomes of saying “yes” when you wanted to say “No”.
People may say “no” but in such a manner that is so weak and doesn’t commit, that they end up accommodating. In other words, you turn your no into a yes.
“No” is said aggressively or angrily. This blocks agreement and destroys relationships’.
To avoid conflict Nothing is said, neither yes nor no. So we leave people hanging, which doesn’t do justice to either party.
“No” is an essential word in our vocabulary that we must use. It helps protect us.
However, the challenge is to have the courage and effective communication skills to say “no” in a way that will not damage any relationship.